Success is not to do great things all the time
but to do things in a great way.
Success Story of
Life… through a Kaleidoscope
Shared by: Yasir Hayat Khan
For some, life is copious while for others life is an earnest
reality. Every now and then you will read in newspaper about a
certain person committing suicide but on the other page you will
read stories where people have transcended themselves to greater
heights despite all odds. I won’t call my life a success story
rather it has always been changing patterns just like a kaleidoscope
which changes patterns when shaken, however the colours which I see
through my kaleidoscope of life are hopes, desires, flaws, emotions
I am Yasir Hayat Khan, a twenty nine year old, male working for
Association for the Rehabilitation of Physically Disabled (ARPD),
NWFP Pakistan since August 2007. Besides that I am also a non
practicing lawyer. Mostly I am interested in writing and poetry and
it’s the pivot around which my hobbies revolve. Other than writing
my hobbies are watching sports, reading and listening to music.
After getting my early education, I graduated in Law and Political
Science then followed it up with Bachelor of Laws (LL. B) and
Masters in Political Science from Peshawar University. Basically I
am from Nowshera, which is situated about 40 kilometers to the West
of Provincial Capital Peshawar, it’s a district of North West
Frontier Province. I dwell with my parents along with three
siblings; two out of my three sisters are married. We live in a
joint family system where my father is the titular head. Nowshera is
a semi-urban town having a few pre-colonial buildings too.
I was born with a congenital condition called “Muscular Dystrophy
(MD)”; it’s a neurological, genetic (without any family history in
my case) progressive disease in which all muscles of the body
deteriorate with the passage of time, until a stage comes when one
has to be confined to a wheel chair. I was diagnosed with “Duchaine
Type Muscular Dystrophy (DMD)” in 1986 through a Biopsy conducted on
my left leg. It was a big shock for my parents as they perfectly
knew the consequences of having such a disease. My muscles also
deteriorated with the passage of time and I became wheel chair bound
when sixteen. Accepting that I can no longer walk was the most
difficult hurdle that I had to overcome, and it took me a long time
to swallow the bitter reality. My parents must have gone through a
dolorous phase as I perfectly remember the tear that was floating in
my father’s eye when he helped me sit in the wheel chair for the
very first time. More than anything it was the mourning of losing my
ability to walk which keeps me pensively hooked. I remember walking
and running around with other kids that I enjoyed to some extent in
my childhood but now I walk in reverie.
Now I had to recuperate and adapt myself to the changed
circumstances, to quell down my pessimism and find someone inside
who could effuse the confidence to live on and I had to bring my
self out of the forlornly shell that surrounded me in late teen age.
It was Maria Robinson’s quote that stirred me on, brought me out of
despondency and gave me a new push in life. She said,” Nobody can go
back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make
a new ending.” That was the new beginning when I started getting my
confidence back; here I would also pay homage to our college
Principal Sir. Baqi Siddique who brought back that missing
confidence in me, he created ramps in the college building, gave me
the most easily accessible class room and place for my wheel chair
and above all he gave me the courage to face the world, to dig out
the abilities which I possessed and to look beyond my disability.
More than anything it was the change in attitude towards my
disability that purged my outlook. John N. Mitchell said that “Our
attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us” and
certainly I wanted to conquer life rather than life dictating its
terms on me. I am quoting Charles R. Swindoll, who said “Attitude to
me is more important than facts… The remarkable thing is we have a
choice… We cannot change our past… we cannot change the inevitable.
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I
react to it.” My life started changing like my attitude, it became
my credence that God has created us and he gives burdens to those
who have the power to carry it, may be because of their bravery or
because of their strength. He chose me to carry the burden of
disability, may be because I am stronger, brave or has got many more
abilities. It’s the ability that counts. For every ability that is
missed, you gain many more. It is just a matter of finding them and
believing in them.
After realizing my abilities, I started excelling in my studies. I
did my graduation with refulgent colours, completed my LL. B by
toping all the three years at university and did my Masters with
utmost of ease. But that was not all, I wanted more. I found
greatest effervescence in doing what people said you can not do.
They said you can not go to university; I did, they said you can not
do LL. B; I did, they said you can not face the world; I did, they
said your disability won’t let you achieve success; I did. It’s not
what the world perceives, its you who has to prove the world wrong.
Difficulties will come as its part of life, look at an oak tree that
grows in strong winds or look at diamonds that are created under
tons of rock; one must remain steadfast to his goals and enjoy the
pleasure of success when it comes.
The most important thing I have learned is to be optimistic.
Optimism is very important while nurturing a disability because God
showed me a new way, every time I was stopped by a road block. When
one door closes, a better one opens. One has to use his brain in a
positive way, it is our mind that can cripple us or energize. Don’t
ever despair. Many successes may come from seeming failures. In my
case failures have taught me far better than success ever could.
Michael Korda in his book How to Achieve Success has said that, “You
have to want to get it, and you have to realize that if others can,
so can you.” People have achieved much more in much worst condition.
I have learned never to quit, as long as there’s hope the world is
in our hands but if we lose hope then we are left stranded alone and
no one cares. It’s us who chose our destiny. I know walking again is
next to impossible for me but I can always hope as hoping isn’t
I always knew that hard work will eventually pay off and my academic
qualifications won’t get wasted. Thanks to Mr. Ghulam Qadir
(President ARPD), Sibghat ur Rehman (Secretary ARPD) and Saira Qadir
(Assistant Director) who gave me propitious opportunity to work for
them and prove my mettle. It’s not the end though; I want to pursue
my carrier in civil services or in legal services along with working
for ARPD. ARPD is not only working for the rehabilitation of
physically disabled but also working to disseminate information
amongst ordinary people and to educate them about issues relating to
disability. Today I feel very satisfied to work for my own community
and for my own people.
My latest opportunity has come with Askari Bank who have hired me at
their Nowshera Branch. I am really happy to be there working with a
very cooperative staff who always help me in whatever form they can
give. And I am in turn working with all me heart and hard work. So
my fellows don't ever waste any opportunity that comes your way
because there may not be any second chance.
As I said in the prologue, I have seen my life through a
kaleidoscope. The images are composed of hopes, desires, emotions,
flaws and mishaps. These feelings can be construed in words like
flaws of my body, mishap of my disability, hopers of a better
tomorrow, desires of being able to earn for my self and to be a
source of pride to my parents, siblings and loved ones, emotions of
joy and despair, of love and hate, of frustration and anger, and of
desperation. Despite all this I have remained focused and trying to
create my own images. The journey is still on and a long road ahead.
I will reach destiny with the light of hope showing me the way.
In the journey of life never despair,
Let hope be the light, courage your measure,
Envisage you goal and never give in,
Destiny is not far, stride with a grin.
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